Community Guidelines

Our promise: We prioritize member safety, privacy, and high-signal connection over growth-at-all-costs. If a rule boosts engagement but harms trust, we won’t do it.

Friendship-first Trust & follow-through Respect & boundaries Privacy-first No dating No networking No spam
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What This Is

PLAZA is a place to build real friendships—deep, non-romantic, values-aligned connections. It’s designed for people who want a small circle they can rely on, not endless acquaintances, noisy group chats, or random events that go nowhere.

If you’re here because your weeks are busy, weekends sneak up, and you want 1–2 solid plans with 2–3 trustworthy people—without awkward cold DMs—then you’re in the right place.

What This Is Not

To protect the vibe, we’re explicit:

  • Not a dating platform. No flirting-first behavior, no “let’s grab a drink 😉” outreach, no using meetups as a hunting ground.
  • Not professional networking. No pitching, recruiting, fundraising, “let’s connect on LinkedIn,” or lead-gen behavior.
  • Not an attention feed. No ragebait, clout-chasing, engagement farming, or performative posting.
  • Not spam. No mass DMs, copy-paste intros, or “join my group” blasts.

If those are your goals, this won’t be a good fit.

The Standard We Protect

We optimize for trust, depth, and follow-through.

In practice, that means:

  • Be kind, direct, and respectful.
  • Keep the community high-signal (quality > quantity).
  • Follow through on plans, or cancel early and cleanly.
  • Treat privacy like a shared asset, not a loophole.

Community Principles

1) Respect is non-negotiable

We don’t tolerate harassment, intimidation, hate speech, or demeaning behavior—whether public or in DMs.

Examples of not-OK:

  • Insults, sexual comments, racial/ethnic slurs, “jokes” at someone’s expense
  • Pressuring someone to meet, drink, stay longer, or share personal info
  • Retaliation after rejection or boundaries

2) Consent and boundaries come first

No one owes you time, attention, a reply, or a meet-up.

Always OK:

  • “Thanks, not my thing.”
  • “I’d rather keep this online.”
  • “I’m leaving now.”
  • “Please don’t message me again.”

If someone sets a boundary, respect it immediately.

3) Reliability is part of being trustworthy

So we expect:

  • Clear invites (who / what / where / when / duration)
  • Confirmations (don’t leave people hanging)
  • Early cancellations (as soon as you know)
  • No ghosting after making a plan

Repeated flaking = loss of trust = removal.

4) Depth over performance

This community is for thoughtful, caring, growth-oriented friendships—not “collecting contacts.”

Aim for:

  • Curiosity, listening, and reciprocity
  • Honest intros (who you are, what you enjoy, what you’re looking for)
  • Small-group or 1:1 connections that can actually compound over time

5) Privacy-first by default

You agree to:

  • Don’t share screenshots, profiles, phone numbers, or personal stories outside the platform without explicit permission
  • Don’t dox, stalk, or “background-check” people to intimidate them
  • Don’t use the community to build marketing lists

(See our Privacy Policy for full details.)

Messaging & Introductions (high-signal rules)

No mass DMs

If you message someone, it should be personal and relevant—based on shared interests/values, not volume.

Good DM:

  • 2–4 sentences
  • Why you chose them
  • A simple, low-pressure next step

Not allowed:

  • Copy-paste intros
  • “Hey” / “What’s up” spam
  • Outreach that’s clearly dating or sales in disguise

Keep the vibe clean

  • Don’t sexualize conversations.
  • Don’t pitch projects, services, crypto, events, courses, or businesses.
  • Don’t try to move people off-platform immediately.

Meet-ups & Offline Safety

PLAZA can help people meet offline, but everyone controls their own risk.

Best practices:

  • Meet in public places first (cafés, parks, busy areas)
  • Tell a friend where you’re going if you’re meeting 1:1
  • Keep first meet-ups short (45–90 minutes)
  • Leave whenever you want—no explanation required

Hard line: any intimidation, coercion, or unsafe behavior around offline meetups can lead to immediate removal.

Reporting, Moderation, and Enforcement

If something feels off, report it

Report:

  • Harassment, pressure, sexual comments, hate/discrimination
  • Dating behavior after “not a dating app” is clear
  • Pitching, recruiting, spam, or manipulation
  • Repeated flaking / unreliable coordination patterns
  • Privacy violations (screenshots shared, doxxing, etc.)

How to report

What happens after a report

We aim to be fair, consistent, and protective of member safety.

Possible actions:

  • Warning + education
  • Temporary messaging restrictions
  • Temporary suspension
  • Permanent removal
  • In severe cases, escalation to appropriate authorities

No retaliation policy: retaliating against someone for reporting is a bannable offense.

Zero-Tolerance Behaviors

Immediate removal (no warnings) may apply for:

  • Harassment, threats, stalking, or intimidation
  • Sexual coercion or persistent unwanted advances
  • Hate speech or targeted abuse
  • Sharing private info or screenshots without permission
  • Fraud, impersonation, or scams

If you’re unsure, use this test

Before you post or message, ask:

  • Would this feel respectful if I received it from a stranger?
  • Am I adding trust, clarity, and warmth—or noise and pressure?
  • Is this aligned with friendship (not dating, not networking)?

Updates

We may refine these guidelines as the community grows. If we change something meaningfully, we’ll note it clearly.

Last updated: 22 December 2025